My life in sex: ‘It was clear my labia had been completely removed’

The woman who regrets her labiaplasty I am 24, and have always been self-conscious of how I looked down there. Not enough to put me off having sex and I never had complaints, but it was always in the back of my mind that my labia were on the larger side. Id previously had cosmetic surgery on my ears, which went well, and figured that labiaplasty could also boost my confidence. So, two months ago, I underwent surgery, telling only one friend. I travelled to and from the hospital on my own and told my boss that I was on holiday. Straight away, I knew something wasnt right. Instead of a reduction, it was clear that my labia had been …

The models have bellies, hips and thighs that jiggle: the rise of body-positive swimwear

From larger-cup bikinis to modest beachwear, fashion is finally beginning to cater for a range of womens bodies If theres one thing Sasha Khan loathes, it is shopping for swimwear. Which makes it a strange coincidence that, on the day we speak, Khan has just been bikini shopping. I buy swimwear about once every 10 years, she says. The 23-year-old charity worker from London is flying to Ibiza tomorrow. I always put it off. I hate it. Its like having to go to the dentist or get your eyes tested. The reason Khan hates bikini shopping is because she is a size 10-12, with a 32FF bust, and few retailers design swimwear for women with relatively narrow backs and larger …

Schools of thought: can mindfulness lessons boost child mental health?

Children are under increasing pressure. Investing in their mental wellbeing could could help them now and in the future Children are taking 10 minutes out from the hurly burly school day to reflect on their thoughts and their feelings. Some ground themselves by thinking about their feet on the floor, while others concentrate on their breathing. This is mindfulness, the lessons quickly growing in popularity as an antidote to the stress of being a young person in the 21st century, be it pressure to perform in exams, social media, or the obsession with body image that is reported to even affect primary age children. Children are learning about their brains and how to deal with unruly thoughts to control emotions …

The world is scary for girls. But there’s never been a better time to parent

I cant shield my daughter from sexism and racism. But she will be more empowered to confront it than I ever was A few months ago I met my husband and five-year-old daughter at one of those soft-play centres. This one has two storeys of obstacle course for the kids behind a floor-to-ceiling net on one side; and on the other side, Wifi and cheap wine for the parents. While my husband had been working at a small table, our daughter had befriended two kids a brother and sister in the ball pit. That boy keeps asking me to play a game with him and I dont want to, she came out and told us. Thats OK, I said. You …